For those willing to use the KOH measurement as solid proof of no difference might want to consider that the SQ flares are called "high clearance" by Ford. So the measurements that were done from center hub to fender still leave room for doubt that they have the same lift. You would have to...
You will be able to add the winch or any other DIO to your order later. Only the factory installed items are currently on the dealer order guide. You can find the full accessory list on this site. It states which accessories are late availability.
They probably need to start from the bottom of your order and delete all selections one by one, working backwards until they get to the top, the body code, and then change that from the 2 door code to the 4 door code. Then fill in the rest of the order again.
Well, he is wrong. They are listed on the guide as standard on any BL regardless of doors or any configuration. Download the order guide from B6G and look for yourself. It is the same thing he is looking at.